Heather Bedard, C.H.E.
Navigating conversations with your doctor can feel overwhelming, especially if you’re coming in with research that challenges the mainstream protocols. But there’s a way to approach these discussions so that you’re heard and respected. The key? Speaking their language, staying open to alternatives, and remembering that this is a collaboration. Let’s look at this a little closer.
Bring Research, Not Stories
We all have those personal anecdotes — “My friend tried this,” or “I just feel like this is the right choice” — but that won’t get you very far in a doctor’s office. If you want your concerns taken seriously, you need to come with solid, evidence-based research. That means referencing reputable studies, not just social media posts or what you heard from a friend of a friend.
Not sure how to find high-quality health information? That’s exactly what I teach in my coaching program. You don’t need a medical degree to assess research, but you do need the right tools to separate good information from bad. When you show up prepared, your doctor is far more likely to take you seriously—and that’s a game-changer for your health decisions.
Offer Alternatives Instead of Ultimatums
No one likes a know-it-all, and that includes your doctor. You will likely meet resistance if you go in with a “this is the only way” attitude. Instead, approach the conversation with curiosity and a willingness to explore solutions.
Try saying, “I’ve looked into a few options, and I’d love to get your thoughts on these. " Or, “Are there other approaches we could consider?” This keeps the conversation open and productive rather than turning it into a debate. When you show that you’re informed and flexible, you create space for a real discussion and respect.
Collaboration Is Key
Studies show that when patients believe in their care plan, they’re more likely to follow through — and see better results. That’s why it’s crucial that you and your doctor work together. If you’re just nodding along to get out of the appointment, that’s not a win.
Instead, approach the conversation with the mindset that you’re both on the same team. Ask questions, express concerns, and ensure you feel good about the plan before leaving. A collaborative approach benefits both you and your doctor, leading to better care and better health outcomes.
Own Your Power
At the end of the day, you are the consumer. You have the right to make informed choices about your health, and mutual respect is the foundation of a productive doctor-patient relationship. Bring confidence, humility, and solid research to your next appointment, and you’ll be amazed at how much more effective those conversations become.
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